In Australia, a mother shared her story on how she miscarried moments before walking down the aisle on her wedding day.
Kate, 29, and Tim, 32, from Gold Coast, tried hard to conceive before getting pregnant, only to lose the baby on their wedding day.
Two weeks ahead of the wedding, the couple found out that their one-year-old son Liam, and nine-year-old Noah (Kate’s son from a previous relationship) will soon have a new sibling, and had planned to make the announcement at the wedding ceremony.
“I found out I was four weeks pregnant, I was over the moon,” Kate told Kidspot. “I couldn’t wait to surprise Tim, so I made a chocolate explosion box with a little baby suit in it and a message that read, ‘let the next baby adventure begin,’ when he opened it up, he cried, he was so excited.”
“We couldn’t wait,” Kate said. “We planned on doing a big reveal and telling all our family and friends at our wedding.”
However, when Kate was six weeks and five days pregnant and two days before the wedding, she felt something was wrong with her baby.
Kate saw “brown discharge” and felt stomach cramps that were similar to period pains.
She then sought the doctor’s advice the next morning and thankfully, her worries were eased when an ultrasound scan showed that her unborn baby was growing healthily.
“We heard the heartbeat and the baby was the right size and in the right place, so I cried from relief,” Kate recalled.
That same night, Kate did the wedding rehearsal, and as she bids farewell to family and friends, her worst fears had returned.
“I felt a massive downpour of blood and the pain in my back start to get worse,” Kate remembers. “I knew then I was miscarrying the baby, there was no chance of survival.”
Despite their intense sadness, the couple still decided to push through with the wedding that they planned and saved for.
“I knew in my heart I still wanted to marry the man of my dreams, we love each other and so we would get through this together,” she said.
Unfortunately, the couple’s heartbreaking experience was far from over.
On the day of the wedding, Kate felt stomach cramps and this time, it was more severe.
Because of this, Kate made a final trip to the bathroom before walking down the aisle, and the bride-to-be made a heartbreaking discovery.
“This small pod the size of my palm was in my underwear,” Kate said. “It was the baby, I was bleeding so much that day I didn’t even know I had passed it, I was in shock.”
“I walked down the aisle thinking of what we had lost and all that we are going through,” she said.
Kate waited until the wedding was over before telling her husband that they lost their baby.
“I told him I miscarried and he cried, which made me cry,” Kate said. “We buried our baby in a special place in the front garden.”
“It showed the love we have for each other and our family,” she said. “It’s a sacred place for me.”
Kate struggled with the grief of losing a child on what should have been one of the happiest days of her life.
“How do we celebrate this day now?” Kate said. “Is it the day we buried our baby or is it the day we got married? I don’t want to celebrate our marriage which was full of so much laughter, fun and joy – and have the other thought pushed aside, and vice versa.”
“I just feel guilty for celebrating our anniversary on this day,” she said.